Advice question guys and girls... please help?

Ok.. Im a 22 year old chick.... I met the man I love my freshman year in high school... We were best friends for 2 years before anything serious came into play... ever since then we have not been a ';couple'; but we act like it, we say we wont see anyone else just each other... but he doesnt want a title... we moved 3 hours from home together for 3 years and things have been rocky... some days are good some are bad... He tells me every day that he loves me we practically live together now too... he says he never wants to get married, no kids, whatever thats cool with me... i do everything and anything i can for him, sometimes i dont feel i get it in return, also i feel that he is ashamed of me because im a little bit overweight ... six months ago he left me for a 18 year old for about 3 months then came back and said he feels ike she was brought into his life to show him what he really wants and thats me...I dont want to get hurt again, he still doesnt want a commitment... What do i do?Advice question guys and girls... please help?
You must find out what you really want. Not what fits in with his life or anyone elses, but what you want! Do you ever want children? Do you want a committed boyfriend? Do you want someone you can trust? Someone you feel confident about? Someone who loves you for who you are regardless of your weight? Etc.Then, after you decide what you want in your life see if he is consistent with your future. Although love is a very powerful emotion, it is not enough! You can love someone completely but not be compatible. It is just a fact of life. And it is not worth throwing away your morals or goals in life for someone who does not share your views. Obviously there will be disagreements, but it is up to you for how much you will ';accommodate';. The point of a relationship is not to lose yourself in it, but to better yourself, grow and mature! This relationship, that you described, sounds like it is lacking in a lot of crucial aspects that a successful relationship requires. I could be wrong, considering its a paragraph summary. But my advice, you deserve someone who will be complimentary in your life.Advice question guys and girls... please help?
Follow your heart. It sounds like you have changed your mind and now require a commitment. If that is the case, YOU have a decision to make. He has made his choice (not committing) now it's time for your decision. Are you willing to continue this ';open'; relationship? If not, you have to move on. If you are willing to continue, you have to live with the rules you have established and risk him ';stepping out again';.





In the end, it is YOUR decision.





As for your weight, be proud of who you are. From what I have read, you seem to be more self-conscious about it than him (because he is with YOU). If he doesn't accept you, that is his problem.